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Can growing taller change your sexual orientation?

bluto

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@bigfootenthusiast - sexuality has so much variation from person to person that anecdotal evidence, or lived experience, should be considered as valid as any empirical survey that supposedly offers scientific proof of sexuality's nature. The truth is, even after more than a century of psychoanalytic study and decades of genetic research, we still don't know exactly how sexuality is formed. The human brain is too complex for a simple explanation. Personally, I believe that nurture or environment has a lot to do with an individual's sexuality. So at 5'2", it makes sense that one could internalize society's messages about a short man's worth and perceive themselves as undesirable in a heterosexual coupling, leading to an exploration of same-sex desire. At 6'2", that feeling may be flipped on its head: all of a sudden you're the height that heterosexual society considers ideal, and you have more opportunities to explore feelings for the opposite sex. Desires shift and sexuality is not as stable as the "born this way"ers would have you think. I agree with @shadulti -- don't discount the possibility of having feelings toward men in the future, @Confused. Life is a buffet-- enjoy it! :)
 
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You tagged me to ramble about a lot of nonsense. After I had just unwatched this thread as well, what poor luck. The argument is still incredibly specious.
 

Amigo2015

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Has anyone else had trouble figuring out their sexual orientation, and think their height may be the cause of their confusion?

I'm 18 now, but when I was 14 and 15, I thought I was gay. I was only interested in guys (and being a bottom for taller men). Since I was in high school, I never acted on it. I never came out or even told anyone I was gay. I was only 5'2" back then (and had been told by a doctor that I wouldn't grow anymore). I was really scared about being found out that I was gay since I was so small.

Then when I was 16 I got a growth spurt. I grew 8 inches in six months. That's when things started to change. Suddenly, I found myself interested in girls when I never was before. I assumed this meant I was bisexual and just suppressed my desire for women since I thought I was too short for women. However, there was one other big change and that was that I no longer wished to be a bottom. I only wanted to be a top.

After my big growth spurt I continued to grow (although not as fast). I'm 18 now and I stand 6'3". It has been a while since I have been attracted to a guy. It's probably a coincidence but it feels like my sexual orientation went from gay when I was short to bisexual to straight as I grew. I'm sure that's nonsense and I must be bisexual, but has anyone else had a similar experience? Or can anyone else explain what is going on with me?
 

Amigo2015

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I think that growing over a foot between ages 14 and 18 conceivably could alter, or at least rearrange, a person's sexual orientation. The confidence from added height might release urges a person had felt all along. A therapist/shrink I went to for a long time always insisted that power (possessed by one partner or the other) was a vital component of any sexual attraction or romantic relationship. And looking down on a person from a great height is itself an expression of power. I am a very serious fan of tall men. I tend not to admire guys around my own average height. Yet I now find very short guys, Danny DeVito-short guys sometimes extremely attractive- maybe it's the same power dynamic in reverse. Anyway, I think growing 13 inches in 4 years easily might shake up a person's sexual identity.
 
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